All Talk and No Action Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Today I received Shaadi ka Nimantran from Dipal, an old friend from college.

She is getting married next week and my best friend and I shall be attending the ceremony together.

I loved her Invitation card since it had a traditional touch to it. It's always great to receive cards written in regional language along with English. Gives a very Indian touch !

This marriage makes me happy and at the same time nostalgic too. I shared some very nice days of my life with Dipal in college...from being bench mates to project partners to extra currics buddies...we did it all..

It seems just like yesterday when we passed out, she went for her MBA and I started working.

Can't believe it shall be a good 3 years in a few months...

Somehow, I always knew that Dipal would be the first one to get married - coming from a very traditional family...

Yet, in some ways, it seems difficult to digest that we are now "reallllyyy" out of the College mode and friends have started getting engaged/married.

As a little girl, I hated to discuss shaadi and vidaai...Even today am not a big fan of the topic...

Funny, seeing my irritation with marriages, my brother had started detesting the word too...He just thought ki shaadi karna matlab mummy papa ko chodke jaana padta hai....As kids, when marriages were discussed at home, he, more than I, would pledge never to get married !( He is very much over it now and is at his charming best with ladies ! )

The thought of marriage makes me realise that I shall have to LEAVE a family behind, adjust with new people and customs and try to get on with the inner turmoil.

It is difficult to think of a home without a mother fretting over you, a father providing his never ending support, a brother who is more of a buddy than a brother...

There are hearts to be won over and new roles to be played while dealing with the emotional burden of leaving one's family behind...

Though, these days, the transition into married life is not very tumultuous. With women staying away from families due to work or studies, the pain doesn't really surface.

Yet, for the many hundreds of "ghar ki badi aur zimmedar beti" this is one hell of an emotional roller-coaster ride.

I can't start to imagine what Dipal might be feeling right now...

I wish her all the very best... and knowing her, I am sure she shall make a smooth transition !



6 comments:

Ye manzilen !! said...

What is the real reasons this gen Y is running away from marriage? I am talking guys too....
What is REALLY going on folks? Sacchi sacchi batao...

All Talk and No Action said...

@Ye Manzilen - I think there is a fair mix of people who are afraid/unafraid of commitment...

The point is, in general cases, girls might be afraid of leaving behind loved ones, treading in unknown territories and dealing with new responsibilities...

Yes, people are commitment phobic these days...and reasons are aplenty...that can be a new post :)

Namrata said...

nice post!! and ya Dipal will manage it well!! now its time for you to give some news like dis 2!!! aakhir kab tak tu majdoori karegi... bachi ab aage badhna chahiye :)... i am sure tere wo to tujhe ghar se bahar sabji lane bhi akeli nahi jane denge... fir company mein majdoori to noways!!!

All Talk and No Action said...

@Namrata - Ya ya...bahut jald achhi khabar sunai degi tujhe ;)

And I would infact love to share wok w hubby...woh bhaajiyaan le aaye..n I shall go to Office :D

BS.. said...

AAPKA NUMBER KAB AAYEGA????

All Talk and No Action said...

@BS - Child marriage mai nahi maanti mai...isliye 2-3 saal tak toh nahi aayega