kAy comes up with a well crafted experience. People of "marriageable" age will identify with the sentiments.
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I hear it's a competitive market out there - this marriage business.
If you wish to go the arranged marriage way - have no qualms about being marketed, paraded and rejected, all on grounds such as:
- How you peel a banana
- How you hold and fold a paper napkin
- Your choice in cars
- The way you oil and comb your hair
Even then, there is every possibility of a better, svelter, more equipped shark getting away with your prey.
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Marriages should happen. But, at the right time. With the right person.
But Sunshine would like to poke a hole in this theory too.
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I find this sudden surge in wanting to "get published".
A lot of friends, acquaintances and bloggers I read, wish to see their names in print, someday.
Mostly, I think it's the glamour, because, writing appears to be secondary to them.
Anyway, whatever your reasons, I recommend reading Rachelle Gardner, a literary agent.
You will appreciate the writing skills required, the industry workings and the toils involved in getting published.
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My thoughts on India's stance in Af-Pak made their way to Indimag.
I recommend reading Colonel Ajay Ukidve's comments on the subject.
Every argument he makes is a chapter in geo-political affairs.
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Hang often impresses with his honest and sometimes, unusual observations.
I especially liked this, this and the three types of passion.
Today I received Shaadi ka Nimantran from Dipal, an old friend from college.
She is getting married next week and my best friend and I shall be attending the ceremony together.
I loved her Invitation card since it had a traditional touch to it. It's always great to receive cards written in regional language along with English. Gives a very Indian touch !
This marriage makes me happy and at the same time nostalgic too. I shared some very nice days of my life with Dipal in college...from being bench mates to project partners to extra currics buddies...we did it all..
It seems just like yesterday when we passed out, she went for her MBA and I started working.
Can't believe it shall be a good 3 years in a few months...
Somehow, I always knew that Dipal would be the first one to get married - coming from a very traditional family...
Yet, in some ways, it seems difficult to digest that we are now "reallllyyy" out of the College mode and friends have started getting engaged/married.
As a little girl, I hated to discuss shaadi and vidaai...Even today am not a big fan of the topic...
Funny, seeing my irritation with marriages, my brother had started detesting the word too...He just thought ki shaadi karna matlab mummy papa ko chodke jaana padta hai....As kids, when marriages were discussed at home, he, more than I, would pledge never to get married !( He is very much over it now and is at his charming best with ladies ! )
The thought of marriage makes me realise that I shall have to LEAVE a family behind, adjust with new people and customs and try to get on with the inner turmoil.
It is difficult to think of a home without a mother fretting over you, a father providing his never ending support, a brother who is more of a buddy than a brother...
There are hearts to be won over and new roles to be played while dealing with the emotional burden of leaving one's family behind...
Though, these days, the transition into married life is not very tumultuous. With women staying away from families due to work or studies, the pain doesn't really surface.
Yet, for the many hundreds of "ghar ki badi aur zimmedar beti" this is one hell of an emotional roller-coaster ride.
I can't start to imagine what Dipal might be feeling right now...
I wish her all the very best... and knowing her, I am sure she shall make a smooth transition !
Aaj kal ek cousin ki shaadi ki baatein chal rahi hain...
Kaafi saare achhe rishte aaye...aur kaafiyon ko mana karna pada...
Reason being...this sis is a PG in Management and most guys the family has met are well settled in family businesses, yet, are plain graduates.
It's important for the behen that her guy be more educated and better placed than she is...she thinks this shall ensure that she gets a "broad minded" nau jawan...
This set me thinking too.
How much does a degree matter?
Does having an extra set of MAs/PhDs on your name plate make you broad minded?
Does it ensure marital harmony and lesser ego clashes?
Will the guy be any lesser interesting if he is only a graduate? Will he lack in intellectual chatter? Would he not be worldly informed and refined in thoughts?
Would he not want me to go out and work? Would he get upset if I were adorned with fancier degrees??
Will the age old and well known bharatiya sanskar not be enough in the face of globalisation and an MBA hungry world??
Most important, would he be himself with a wife having better degrees than him?
Where does an Indian guy stand on this one?
